10 Ways to Use Loneliness to Your Advantage
Although we live in world of billions of people loneliness is on the rise and when it happens many people feel powerless to connecting with others but the answer to being with the best people is using that time by yourself to become more self-aware
You are born alone and you will die alone.
That is one of the cold hard facts of life. And I know it sounds harsh but it’s true.
I`m not a lonely cowboy from the old wild west who sleeps in the mountains after a feed of beans at a makeshift campfire while my gun is clenched in my hand but I am wary of the time I have on earth.
Because it will go.
And at some stage, my life will end.
But I’m not afraid of it ending. Instead, I am afraid of being old and having regrets about wasting my time. So I`m very conscious of the time I spend on something.
Even now as I write I am conscious of how my speed of thought, creativity to get the words on the page to make sense, and how I can type with the most efficiently without making mistakes reads aloud.
And as I create this piece I`m alone.
Like most things, when I do what I want to do for myself is done alone. And it’s in that aloneness that I find refuge. And if we think about it we all do.
Because being alone is not loneliness.
But loneliness does come to many and when that happens that’s when we begin to look inward at ourselves and question why we’ve ended up in that spot. Then we must choose to use that loneliness for the betterment of all aspects of our lives.
Here are 10 ways we can use loneliness to your advantage:
1. When you’re lonely you need to accept that it’s a natural reaction of our brain to think negative thoughts and blame yourself for ending up lonely.
Because latest evidence states that there are over 6,200 thoughts in our brains on a given day and most of them will be negative.
2. When you feel lonely you can tell others and some people will bring you into their group or suggest other ways for you to spend your time.
This can be a good thing because sometimes other people who are more empathetic will not only understand your plight but will also take the time to see your loneliness from an objective point of view. From there they can best direct you into being with others or doing new things without having the emotional turmoil of feeling rejected in being alone in the first place.
3. Once you realize you are lonely you need to stop blaming yourself.
You need to establish where you are in life at this point and try to analyze why you`ve been left in this position in the first place. When you do you`ll understand the choices that you’ve made so far in your journey.
4. Loneliness is a gift that allows us to understand we can start again in connecting with better people for us.
Because when we establish the people from our past who are no longer giving us their time we must accept that they are no longer the best people for our future selves.
5. Being lonely is a deep feeling of isolation yet we can easily turn it into being alone and this can be a positive way of living with true independence.
And when we figure this out we are at the point where we can begin to flourish and achieve more in life. From there we can feel the confidence to then choose better people around us.
6. Once alone you can be more productive with your time as nobody is pulling you back.
This is when your perception of time can change. Because instead of wallowing in pity of how much time you have in front of you to be lonely you`ll start to see the time in front of you as an opportunity to improve and when you do you`ll be looking forward to each new moment.
7. When your brain forces intently on your passion and you have no other people around you will achieve more than you believed you ever could.
And that’s when your focus becomes more established. From there you can grow as a person and identify with your new passions rather than with the lack of people around you.
8. By being alone you`ll understand yourself better and learn self-awareness.
From there you`ll learn stability in your being. You`ll begin to accept your failings as a person and see new ways of turning them to your advantage rather than being upset that you have them.
9. Being alone is a great way to forge forward and become a leader.
Because once you start to turn your time alone into positive vibes you`ll notice how you`ll begin to think about doing things in new ways. That’s where innovation lies and all innovations need leaders to begin to push things forward. By the time you think this way, you`ll start to look in the mirror and know you’re the one that must see that this happens.
10. Having large portions of time alone allows you to plan, organize, and create for the long term without any emotional distraction from anyone else.
And when finances are involved this is the best way to move forward as it will allow you to carefully use your solitude to allocate your finances properly. For if you have enough financial injection you won’t want people who are unwilling to see your newfound vision to judge or question why you intend to invest into the production of the time you spent alone. And similarly, if you lack financial resources you don’t want people knocking you and your ideas at that stage either.
Of course, you don’t have to take any of this advice. But if you do you won’t be that old cowboy left out in the night cold, who is wary of people and is without a place to go when the fire goes out in their life.
Get FREE Access To Dr. Conor’s VIP List Here (Limited Time Only)
