2 Simple Ways To Momentarily Relax
By checking your breathing and increasing your eye contact you can instantly relax from life’s biggest stresses
When I was forced to use technology it made me feel powerless to it.
Because in truth I`m often a laggard to these types of new things.
I wouldn’t say I`m wary of technology but I do question every app I download, its functionality, its present and long-term need for me, and how much time or money it’s going to attempt to hook me in for.
I think it’s healthy to question these things, to weigh up the pros and cons. After all, you only have so much time on earth and why should I waste time on something that’s not going to serve me?
That has always been my attitude with technology and I don’t think it’ll change in general unless I see something I feel is a need for me and understand how I`ll benefit from it straight away. Because technology is there to be useful and not to interfere with your life but instead make it more efficient.
So when I opened up my online banking one day and realized I couldn’t access my money without having to use an app I was irritated, to say the least.
Because it showed to me how walking into a bank and speaking to a cashier was no longer the welcomed thing in the banking industry. But if banks and big industries are becoming less connective with people you must increase your connectivity with others in return. Following a pandemic it’s been clear to us all that we need to be more truly connected to other people and ourselves too so we can keep calm when things are uncertain.
And doing all of this comes best from a relaxed mind.
Yet relaxation can be very tough to attain in this modern world.
Before the pandemic resulting from the Covid-19 virus, many people had mobile Smartphone technology. Millions of apps could be downloaded into people’s phones for them to use. The options seemed endless.
However, as people were forced to stay at home for a long time and in many cases were unable to work in their offices they leaned on their technology a bit more.
But it wasn’t just the phones that people used a bit more.
People bought bigger televisions and smart televisions became all the rage as well. It was a time when people worked, lived, and spent their social time all in one place. So everything they needed and wanted had to be in the one space around them.
And when that happens our brains are distracted.
When a person’s brain is distracted it’s very difficult not to spend more and more time giving what’s drawing you in your full attention. Because technologies such as these have screens that light up brightly with colors and moving images predesigned by marketers to grab attention.
They work on the dopamine fix that people’s brains get when something pops up on a screen.
And although this may last only a few seconds the media has become impressive in creating top-quality content that continually attracts the viewer which results in seconds glancing at a screen turn into minutes and even hours for some.
And before you know it the day has passed.
But all of this attention sapping screen time can also cause stress and annoyance in people’s lives. That’s why it’s vital to acknowledge the need for relaxation. And many people find it very difficult to switch off from electronic devices and the information they’ve influenced you to think about.
That’s why the choice and the ability to relax is now a very vital cog in the modern world of not only mental health but in the sustainability of working successfully in modern office life.
Because breathing properly has not been mastered by millions of people all around the world.
And at times of stress, this breathing becomes shallow.
Before any conscious exercise of breathing, you must make sure your nasal passageways are completely clear before beginning to consciously improve your breathing.
A simple breathing technique using the 1,2,3 technique of breathing is a great way to begin breathing. Firstly, you must inhale through your nose to the count of 3 long seconds. I usually tell clients to count in their head ‘100’, ‘101’, ‘102’, and ‘103’ as the saying of ‘100’ slows your counting to roughly one second in duration.
Then when exhaling you need to exhale to the count of ‘3’, ‘2’, and ‘1’. Again you need to count with 100s in mind to slow down the counting a bit.
Once you get into this flow you become much more aware of your cycle of breathing.
And eye contact is vital to all human beings as it cuts through insincerity and anxiety.
When you`re trying to create eye contact, naturally, you`ll feel a whole range of emotions. You may laugh, get angry, or simply feel a bit odd by having to stare directly into someone else’s eyes. But you need to remember it’s the most natural thing in the world to do this.
Human beings are designed for intimate connection and the eyes are the central source of showing this intimacy.