5 Ways That Introverts Can Improve their Social and Business Relationships

Introverts are often seen to be not as good with people as extroverts, but that’s simply not true

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Strictly speaking, introverts are not skilled at working with people.

But that doesn’t mean they can’t change and use their original way of being to develop into being more effective and to enjoy being with more people both professionally and personally.

But before you can become more skilled as an introvert, you have to know what an introvert and an extrovert are and then figure out how the characteristics of an introvert can develop into an extrovert.

An introvert is a person who produces their energy from being in their company without any people around.

Although it may have been thought at one time that introverts were shy people, this is not true. Rather they prefer to be by themselves and are not necessarily shy people.

On the other hand, an extrovert gains their energy from being around people.

They may be more talkative than introverts and better at gleaming conversation from their peers and many other social groups as well.

The characteristics of introverts are quite different from extroverts. But that doesn’t mean they can’t be developed. So long as the introvert has an intention of why they want to develop they can adapt their abilities to maximize their potential in social situations.

1. Introverts usually have a smaller group of friends than extroverts. And this isn’t a bad thing.

After all, if we have as many real friends as what many people have on their social media friends lists nowadays then how can we genuinely show friendship to each person? Think about it, if there are 365 days in a calendar year and we have more social media friends than the amount of days in a year then it means we probably don’t spend any time with everyone on our friends list even once annually!

Surely friendship demands a visit at least once annually?

Of course, it does.

So, being introverted and having only a handful of friends is to be admired. You can be trusted with those that are friends with you and know that there is less chance of that trust being abused.

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But having a small group of friends is also limiting your ability to network.

It means that if you’re in need of a service or a favor that none of your close group of friends can provide then you need to get to know more people. Not only that, you need to bring them into your circle. By doing so you`re diluting your group with someone that’s more knowledgeable on a certain topic or has more skill than your existing friends.

And that means that you’re helping your friends out.

For example, if they don’t know someone that is an employment recruiter and you befriend and build a trusting rapport with one then when one of your original friends needs a career change they’ll ask you or the new friend to help them get a job.

2. Many introverts also like to keep their emotions to themselves.

But that’s not going to let potential friends and clients understand you the most. If you want to get closer to a greater amount of people and to give yourself the greatest amount of chances to connect and build social and business relationships you’ll need to show your emotions more.

As many introverts are used to being alone a lot of the time they don’t laugh out loud.

They may avoid expressing joy or even simply smiling regularly. And when they get to a group situation they are not practiced enough to react to quick banter exchange that can be the glue that holds business deals together.

By spending more time in group situations and even laughing at other people an introvert can exercise their ability to improve their emotional communication.

3. Many introverts find it difficult to be in a group but they need to be there.

Because being in a group for a longer time means they have a greater chance of building rapport in working relationships. Just by being present and staying that bit longer in the group people will begin to trust you that bit more.

If you arrive and leave a group before long people will question why this is so.

4. Many introverts also find it difficult to think aloud and this spices up conversations.

Think about it for a second.

We all know people in groups who are chattier than others. But that doesn’t mean that everything they say has been thought about and researched for a long time. Rather, many of these types of people are shooting from the hip.

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If an introverted person forces themselves to talk more they’ll get more attention to build rapport.

Of course, those that just talk for the sake of it are not noticing things around them as much in general.

5. That’s where an introvert can have an advantage. If they notice things around them more they can capitalize on something that is happening that will interesting for the whole group to look at.

And it means that your observational skills will be complemented by everyone too!

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Dr. Conor Hogan Ph.D.

Dr. Conor Hogan Ph.D.

Forbes, INC. & Entrepreneur Magazines, CBS, & NBC Featured, Dr. Conor Is The World’s Leading High-Performance Neuro Socio-Psychologist & Co-Authored 4 Books