Being Alone Is The Gift Of Growth In Life

We often think it’s better to be around people all of the time so we can avoid spending time with ourselves but the truth is when we’re alone we’re tapping into some of the greatest successes we’ve ever experienced

You‘re born alone and you die alone.

These are hard facts to get your head around but it’s what happens to most people in life.

For now, you can sit around and gawk at that last line and worry about the moment that the grim reaper will take you from this earth and what will happen after that. Or you can forget about the statement as soon as you`ve read it and concentrate instead on making the most out of the time you`ve got left.

Oh, and by the way, there’s no guarantee on how much life you have to go before you pop your clogs!

These are tough lessons to take.

Yet all of them are very true.

For when you come into this world you may be very welcome by your mother and father but unless you`re a twin, triplet, or come from a multi-birth of sorts the chances are you`ll arrive into this world alone. Of course, months and even years later you won’t have remembered your arrival, and it won’t matter. Still, it may have been a lonely one for you at the time.

The moment of your death is likely to be similar too.

Sure you may be in company at the time but it’s probable if you`re healthy enough to live to a good age you`ll someday stumble or feel pain. And before you know or have a chance to have some good company by your side you’ll be cast into some form of unconsciousness leading to an eventual demise.

But I`m not going to dwell on that right now.

Rather, I`d much prefer to talk about your life.

Still, these two things have something in common and that’s the lack of memory you`ll have from both your arrival and your departure from life.

For it’s what we remember in life that gets wired into our subconscious thoughts. Whether memory is good or bad it dictates the default pattern of our thinking. From there we take most actions based on our past experiences and how we felt affected by them at the time. Because 93% of our thoughts are subconscious ones leading us to our current and future behavior.

In life, most people have limiting beliefs about themselves and base their behaviors on the habits they`ve already built up along the way. From their youth through to their adulthood when they`re faced with something new to consider doing or something they compare the actions needed to accomplish this with what they already remember themselves doing.

And this all happens very quickly in the brain.

When it occurs within a second a feeling is attached to how that memory made them feel.

So if you are faced with a challenge in life and see a way out but won’t choose to take it it’s probably due to a past behavioral reaction you had because of this.

You`ll go off what you know makes you comfortable simply because your brain wants to attach a new decision to a familiar decision that’s been previously made in similar situation.

Is that challenge scary?

It could be. But in truth, you`re not sure.

Because doing something different may be challenging for you to do but the outcome could be much more positive than a past outcome and if that were to happen the feeling would be a better feeling than before. But of course, that’s not how most people react when their lifestyle is threatened.

Most people fear having to change something big in life and relate it to being a loss of what they already have.

Sure if you had a good income or had a lot of assets built up and suddenly you were faced with a loss of that money or those assets you`d be less financially secure. It may bring about initial shock and uncertainty. At that moment more than likely you`ll think of a time in the past when you were challenged in such a way and question yourself as to how you got out of such a fix or if you were able for such a hit to the system.

In doing so you`ll access your memory vault.

From there you`ll associate how you felt and where the feelings led you in the future.

But if you know when you were born you were alone, without any clothes, hungry, and lacking possessions or money but with enthusiasm to live and grow then you’re more than likely to feel positive and with better hopeful intent in the future.

Because we’re all alone and may have been put into situations we think we can’t get out of and it can make us feel hopeless.

Yet we can get ourselves out of these positions. If we did it as an uneducated or inexperienced baby we can do it as an adult. By thinking about the present moment and disciplining yourself to use the knowledge you have to move forward to a better time you’ll realize you’ve much more capability than you realize.

So like a baby all alone take one step at a time and know you`ll get to wherever you want to go.