How To Adapt To Change In Life
Changes happen in life and you`ve no choice but to roll with them and if you`re smart you`ll learn from your mistakes along the way as well
Imagine being 40 years of age and never having a partner.
Well, that’s what happened to Andy Stitzer as he reached that age without having sex even though he was a nice guy.
And he wasn’t half bad looking either.
So how could he have ended up alone after all of that time?
Because he never changed.
Having worked as a salesman at an electronics store for many years he avoided telling his little secret of never having been intimate with another person until a fun game of cards with his pals meant he spilled the beans. They were shocked to hear of his situation and wanted to make sure he would experience the art of love-making soon so that he’d be more humanized. But Andy, although a very friendly person, had some drawbacks to his masculinity.
Although he was mature in age he still spent much of his free time playing video games and collecting action figures.
And his friends knew this would have to change if he was to experience the full extent of what he was missing out on from having a female life partner.
That movie 40-Year-Old Virgin showed that nothing lasts forever and that everything around you changes even if you don’t choose it to.
You may not move forward but trust me others will.
If you want to keep your head in the sand and ignore people you can. After all, there’s nothing wrong with having your apartment, earning your money, and spending your free time as you wish. As long as you`re not harming anyone else and being a productive member of society then in many ways, that’s admirable. Better still, it epitomizes independence.
But if you live a life avoiding seeking all that life has to offer you then you`re missing out. As life has some wonderful things to offer and if you don’t work for them you`ll regret your time later on.
I must admit although I can say I`ve not been the first one to see some changes come about in my life over the years. Yes, I`m great at seeing bigger changes like economic ones, and how people alter their behaviors, and how trends come and go. But if I`m to be entirely honest I’ve dwelled on personal situations in the past at times over the years as well.
And I`ve asked myself why that is.
Was I afraid of change at the time?
Was I stuck and not willing to adapt?
Did I not want to improve?
The answers to these questions did not mean I was unwilling to change but instead, during those times I was happy with the status quo and lived through it for what it was.
But I adapted when I eventually had to before too long.
Yet, I never got emotional about though.
Rather when I accepted that things were never going to be as they were I sought out the next positive parts of life that replaced the old ones with them as best I could.
And most of that past change came from people in my life. Throughout what I learned was people come into your life and although you may like them to stay and even expect them to be around forever they simply will not be.
As some die, others peel away.
And I don’t blame anyone for that.
I don’t even look at myself and judge myself for acting in certain ways around them or having done or failed to do certain things to or for them. Instead, I accept it as it is. Because I believe I treated people as I felt they wished to be treated at the time and am happy with all I could give to those relationships, friendships, and acquaintances when they existed.
Because I think everyone has their level of awareness.
In the past, others may have thought they were going to be in my life for longer but when it turned out they were not I didn’t judge them for the reasons they went. Because I think everyone has a choice to go and move on and mostly they do it as they ultimately feel it better for them at that time.
And you can’t change people if they don’t want to be changed.
But you can improve yourself.
Anytime significant people have left my life I`ve tried to learn from the lessons they`ve given me and use them to help me as I go into my future. I think by doing that I`m listening to the reactions of others and understanding how I have presented myself to the world in my time with them.
From those experiences, I look at myself and try to become a better person.
And although I’ll probably never improve all things about being me I`ll deepen my
knowledge about who I am forever. From there I`ll continue to try to be better at the things I`m best at in this world.
Because for me it’s all about development.
Learning along the way can only make me more aware of how others need to be treated and that gives me satisfaction to do my best to help people along their way too.
So even though the seasons will change and the years will pass by I`ll be happy once I become better at adapting to the changes of others and improving what I have to offer this world.
And like Steve Cartell in his funny movie, I`ll laugh as I look back at how I thought life was fulfilled until I`ll realize there are other people that’ll also stay in my life who are truly willing to guide me whenever I`m ready to move on to the next chapter of my story as well.
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