How To Become Socially Confident
Believe it or not, everyone has a social weakness and they can all be overcome
“Actions speak louder than words!” is an old saying and it’s very true.
For if you’re low on confidence you can blame other people, but it’s also other people who can test it and improve it as well.
Of the almost 8 billion people in the world there only some who are truly confident in all aspects of their life. And even those are not fully confident in all aspects of their life all of the time.
And if they say they are lying.
Don’t believe me? Fair enough. But let’s break it down and see.
Firstly, why do you need confidence in the first place?
Well, obviously confidence gives you a feeling that you can attain a certain goal that you set out to achieve. It drives you to look deeper into something and to research the possibilities of attaining what you truly desire. Then when you try it’s the confidence that will be your bedfellow to assure you you’re going to get there.
But even if there are people who we put up on pedestals in life that we feel are exuding confidence they too lack it in some way at some times.
Because everyone has different areas of life and everyone had a weakness in one of those areas. Life is rarely if ever perfect for anyone at any moment in time. The moment you think you’ve everything in control something goes wrong or at least you begin to see what could be the problem on the horizon.
Even the richest people lack confidence.
Sure they may be supremely talented and have astute business acumen, but for other reasons, they may lack confidence in other areas of life. Although they may have figured out how to make a few bucks they may be clueless emotionally and unable to connect to others in their close inner circle. If they’re super-rich they’ve probably been tempted by others to pour their money into others’ projects and this can leave a strain of distrust on them and begin to play with their confidence in people in their lives.
And people that are poor can lack confidence in becoming rich.
They may not understand how people who are rich attain their wealth or when they try to invest in financial projects themselves realize that their money doesn’t go far enough to see any sustainable growth. And when their money runs out they’ll learn that they haven’t made any extra money, or confirmed to themselves that their ideas worked in their first place. And worse again, they’ll possibly have wasted all their hard-earned savings to discover nothing positive but all of this.
Yet there’s no shame in either of these two examples especially if there’s no one else involved.
Because it’s when we involve other people in our lives and allow them to know of what we hope to achieve that we are opening ourselves out to be either clapped on the back or kicked where the sun doesn’t shine.
As people will either affirm to you that you`re on the right track with an idea or a project or they’ll crush your dreams and try to bring you down a rung or two as well. And in between, they’ll be many people who’ll take a little bit of extra notice and watch you more intently to see how you go.
So whatever you pour your confidence into will become some form of your new reality as others will notice it in your life.
And some will see you as being different because of this. Some will be jealous and others will be complimentary.
But most will notice and realize you’ve changed and although they may want that change too they’ll be more attentive to learn from you so that they can try to achieve the same things in their life too.
But no one can truly judge you for better or for worse and so your confidence can never be knocked or built up.
Because it’s through your choices that you do things and from there that you’ll find yourself in another part of life. And by getting to that new place you’ll begin to surround yourself with other types of people as well. With human nature being what is there’ll be some of them who’ll want to get to know you better and it’s through that they’ll realize how you grew. From there your social circle evolves and although problems never go away, greater opportunities present themselves more regularly.
At the end of the day, there are both good people and bad people out there but it’s through making the choices that suit you in life that you’ll find those that are best to be around most of the time. If they judge you then you’ve been the one that’s orchestrated that direction and there must be some part of you who will respect their feedback when it comes.
So in reality, no matter what you do or where you go you’ll always be around people in some way or another.
But it’s the choices you make and the actions you take that will dictate the confidence you have in the company that you’ve created.
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