How To Develop Your Social Abilities
You may not think you have the proper skills to deal with people but the reality is it's all in your head
Development comes from your imagination.
And your brain will recognize your imagination and all you produce from it as being a reality.
That’s how you can develop things into your life.
People think it’s a fluffy concept, but its science.
Your brain has a huge capacity to create and if you don’t stand in your thoughts way you can believe all that you think is real.
But of course, that doesn’t mean that the external happenings in your life will suddenly change. Unless you take positive action towards that desire you’ll be living one life in your head and very different reality in your life.
Yet as with any developmental process in life other people will notice that you’re changing.
For a start whatever you begin to imagine something as being different and eventually believe it then no matter how small it is you’ll start to show that difference externally. From there someone in the society that you live in will begin to notice. They may not say it but they’ll start to realize something’s changing.
You can’t rush others' awareness of how your inner changes will be noticed by them but they will be if only to begin at a very subtle level.
As you develop changes into your life slowly but surely you’ll begin to either show it externally or communicate it to someone else. Once you begin to become more motivated simple changes and styling your hair, putting on different makeup, or dressing to impress are all external signs that you’re confident to transmit your development into the real world. And you may be being doing this consciously or unconsciously at first.
Soon other things will change how you talk about what you begin to believe is developing within you.
You’ll mention how you’re feeling better to a friend or two and they’ll listen or enquire as to how well you’re feeling or different you begin to look or dress. That brings a deeper conversation and one that if they probe a little more they’lll find out that you’ll talk more on how you believe in your development.
And as with all development it can be seen as being positive from some point of view.
So once you’re confident you’re changing you for the better you’ll be enthusiastic and defend how you’ve changed productively. With that, you’ll impact your friend in at least thinking more about how you’ve changed and they’ll probably say that to another person or find it difficult to let go from their mind for a while. Either way, it’s a power that will make an impact for at least a while to come.
Soon then your whole demeanor and body language will mimic what words you’re saying.
From your perspective, you’ll probably become more open. Your arms will no longer cross your chest and you’ll approach people rather than wait to be approached. If someone does approach you, you’ll be more confident in how you deal with what they say as you’ll feel better about your status in life overall.
At this stage it’s even possible that some people will see you as having a presence of note or even becoming a charismatic character in social settings.
And it’s through these types of social settings that you’ll begin to thrive and see as an opportunity to connect rather than an occasion to avoid and just get through. When you grasp that you’ve a real ability to connect to others you’ll begin to wonder who you can now approach. When you realize who is best for you to approach then you’ll show more confidence than you’ve ever shown and that person will notice that too.
That’s when you can feel on another person’s level and when they’ll be happy to chat with you for a brief while too.
From there the funny thing is others will see you with people that they feel they can’t approach. Although nobody in this world is better than the next person, we humans have a funny way of feeling that we are beneath certain people. We put labels on them such as celebrities, presidents, prime ministers, and influencers, but the truth is they are just people like us.
So long as you feel that you’ve developed into the person that you think you should have become then these famous people should greet you sincerely. Of course, they’ll have limited time or may be protected by bodyguards or minders, but each one of them will welcome someone in their life that will be sincere and have something to give to them. Because everyone has value in life and if you feel you’ve done the work on yourself then all you need to do is find people to give that value to.
Whether your value is as simple as giving a kind word, making someone smile, or supporting a friend socially you have something huge to give within a normal social situation. And it’s the very same in all other social situations even with people who are famous for things you admire.
So jump into your imagination and get your social life going, because there are plenty of people waiting for what you have to bring to the party.
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