How Your Dreams Lead Your Reality

What you think about right before you sleep has an impact on your subconscious and your dreams

“Get down to bed!”

Was the shout from my friend’s dad as I hung around with him sometime in our late teens.

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We were at his house and it was only late evening.

Now you’d think that for a guy of around 18 that his father shouldn’t have been shouting at him when a guest was in the house or that his dad shouldn’t be letting rip at him to go to bed at that early time either especially considering his age group.

But it wasn’t that simple.

Because his father wasn’t yelling towards him or even me.

Instead, he was having a go at his younger siblings who had crept up the corridor for some attention after hearing that their brother and I had entered into their home but had bolted back to bed when they heard their father’s voice.

And this was their father’s way of disciplining his younger children.

Now you may like or dislike this way of shouting, either way, I`m not about to judge my friend’s dad. Rather, what I`m getting at here is that many parents react to smaller children in this way when they want to sit back and relax after a hard day’s work.

But it’s not just parents who let a yell out when they want to watch the box later on in the evening. It can be anyone who wants to see their favorite show so they’ll be whisked away from the hassles of their day.

For Mr. O’ Donoghue wanted to slouch onto his couch after his long day’s work and have his mind be overcome by what was happening on the screen. Whereas although his son and I were willing to share a word or two yet at the same time we too were wrapping up our day with viewing what the TV had to offer.

That was a long time ago.

Still in the decades since things haven’t changed much in billions of peoples’ homes all around the world.

These days, in the US and the UK people, watch nearly 4 hours of television every day.

And unlike when I used to hang around with my mate in his home now there are more screens than only a TV.

In the US more than 50% of adults spend most of the day on screens and in the UK most adults spend half of every day in front of a screen.

That’s a lot of time doing the same thing.

So most people in the western world are doing the same thing over and over. And I`m willing to guess without researching too heavily that they are spending at least another 6 hours on average sleeping.

And as most of them are working at some form of a job or another they can’t be spending most of that time in front of a screen in the 9–5 pm period of a day. Therefore, it’s more than likely many spend their late evening and early night in front of a screen.

That’s when your brain is slowing down.

Although its frontal cortex is used for judgment, rationalization, planning, and control, by the late evening its ability to regulate this type of thinking as effectively as earlier in the day is waning.

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Still, though, your brain is somehow following the screen’s story that’s served up to you by its curiosity to figure out what is happening next. And in being curious your brain is working itself out. And like any workout, it demands energy and that energy creates new neural pathways in your brain.

From there, thoughts are generated.

With thoughts, you begin to imagine and analyze. Once you do that you build synapses and this gives prominence to those specific thoughts above the many thousands of other ones you`ve had throughout your working day.

If all of that seems confusing then think of how basic online social media algorithms work.

When a post gets published on a social media platform some eyes look at it and decide if it’s a good post or not. If the majority of them think it is they’ll either like it or share it. Once that is done the post gets shown to more people who will likely judge this post in a similar manner to the initial few.

Your thoughts work in the same way.

The most prominent ones have precedence over the less prominent ones. From there they begin to dictate the landscape of your thinking. And over time that becomes your behavior.

In essence, you are what you think.

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That’s why it’s so important to be aware of what you let into your brain at the end of the day. Because from there your brain waves slow down and you may only have enough energy to switch off your TV or electronic device and pop into bed to fall asleep.

Although spending lots of time in front of a screen may seem like a good way to relax you have to be careful of what you continuously watch as it will re-wire your thinking and shape your life over the longer term.

Of course, that can either be good or bad for you.

But for certain, it will dictate your dreams and that, in turn, will create the decision-making processes of your future.

So be careful what you let into your brain as it’s slowing down later on in the day and you’re your future is coming faster than you think.

Maybe a yell isn’t the worst thing you could have before you go to bed for at least it will wire your subconscious to avoid what will destruct your dreams and your future to come!

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Dr. Conor Hogan Ph.D.

Dr. Conor Hogan Ph.D.

Forbes, INC. & Entrepreneur Magazines, CBS, & NBC Featured, Dr. Conor Is The World’s Leading High-Performance Neuro Socio-Psychologist & Co-Authored 4 Books