Why To Self Actualize And Become Who You Want To Be
Too many people live a life full of regrets and miss out on the time that has passed but if you take more control of your choices you`ll push yourself to where you want to be
Pick any straw you want and see what happens after you do.
That is the choice of your relationships, work, wealth, and overall health. More so, that’s the choice of your whole life.
Now it may sound as if your life is not going to be great if it’s all about straws only but let me explain it a little further.
Because choosing the right straw can be one of the greatest things you do in life. At least, that’s what we were led to believe when we were children. As back then being outside and drawing straws was a regular activity.
The whole exercise involved a few friends being together and having a decision to make. If all the mates disagreed on the choice of action then they`d leave it up to the straws to dictate the next action to take. It also decided on who was the one to carry out that action.
Another reason for this activity was because friends usually drew straws as the action that needed to be taken was not the most attractive option for anyone to volunteer for.
Yet still, all in the group wanted it to be completed.
That’s when each person from the group would retreat to a nearby field or grass hedge and pluck a single blade of grass from it. The objective was to get a blade of grass for each person in the group and for each person to hold the straw short with the majority of its length being hidden within their fist. From there one by one each friend would unveil the true length of their blade of grass.
And the one who had the shortest blade of grass was the loser who had to take the undesired action.
Once the person was selected there was no going back. You had no choice in the matter as you`d have let the straws dictate the outcome of your fate. Of course, when playing
childhood games the fate was never usually that bad but as adults, the result of choosing the shortest straw in life can be a lot different.
If we were to compare this way of choosing our outcome to the potential problems of our lives then we`d see certain scenarios unfold before we’d have to experience them.
For example, if we had to draw straws for the perfect partner then we could begin to compare the pros and cons of dating one person over another and the outcome that would bring.
Similarly for our work-life, if we were at a crossroads over which occupation to work at or which company to join we could draw a straw for each and start to see how the future years would look like once we selected each straw from the handful available.
And then there is our health.
When young if we selected the correct straw our health then it would be in a better state by the time we got older.
Thankfully though as adults we have more power than a bunch of straws.
In fact, we have a lot more control than most of us think. If you don’t believe me then have a think about what Maslow once figured out.
Abraham Maslow believed that every individual has the ability to self-actualize. He felt that if a person is naturally artistic and they avoid fulfilling their potential then they would deny their nature.
Similarly, if someone had intelligence and they do not use this intelligence but instead, deny it throughout their life then it would result in neurosis and illnesses later on in life.
Maslow believed that everyone must meet their basic needs before they can then self-actualize.
Although he knew that each person could do this he also knew that very few would self-actualize completely. He believed that many people had cultural issues, fears, and their drive to fulfill deficiency needs was not strong enough.
So it turns out you have more ability and power than you ever would have thought before. However, you have to step away from your specific culture and question how these traits have a hold on you. And once you do that you need to check your fears and see if they are warranted before establishing where your drive is at.
One way of doing all of this is by asking yourself questions.
As an adult, ask yourself, why do you still play games like drawing straws with our biggest decisions in life? And instead, why not take it much more seriously?
Because if you were to think deeper and carefully plot out each course of action you`d take then you’d see the outcome of where you’d end up and what would be the outcome of your decision-making.
That way you would save time, energy, and money in the long run.
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